Unfortunately, you cant use it. You can have it activated in the multiplayer game, but the moment that you try to use one of those civilizations, and someone else on your game doesn't have that DLC, the game won't be able to launch.
Like Sentry said, in the game setup, the host can choose which DLC are activated in a multiplayer game.
As another note, if you try to join a public game, there is a column that shows which expansion packs and DLC are active for that specific game, so there won't be any confusion later. Since private games, are invite-only, you don't get the luxury of seeing that before joining the game, so I suggest that you communicate with the other players before hand.