I am trying to get Alistair and Anora to marry each other and let Loghain live at the landsmeet. So before the landsmeet began, I talked to Alistair and he agreed to marry Anora. Anora likewise agreed to marry Alistair.
However, when push comes to shove, he backs out after I say that I want to induct Loghain into the Gray Wardens, no matter what I do.
The trouble is, I don't remember if I hardened him or not (I played this game a few years ago and stopped playing when my system broke until recently).
So the question is, will he AGREE to marry in the first place if he's not hardened (going through with the marriage is a separate issue)? All the guides I've seen mention that he must be hardened to get the ending, but they don't mention this question.