Currently I am a vassal for the Kingdom of the Nords, with a small village part of my estate. It takes everything I have to just keep it from being raided since I don't know if / can't figure out how to garrison at a village, and my long-term aspirations is to one day have my own kingdom.
However, I'm the kind of player who likes conflict, and I don't want to conquer the whole world or even destroy a whole faction, and currently the Nords are getting close to eliminating the Swadians, something which would irritate me to no end.
Is there a way to stop this? Can I "help" the Nords lose? It seems that even if I don't participate in their attacks and campaigns, they're winning the war at an alarming rate (causing other factions to declare war and this is quickly turning into a world war).