Killing items on the ground
setup a scoreboard :
/scoreboard objective add Item dummy Item
Inside repeating active commandblocks (one that executes a command every thick) use these 3 commands:
/replaceitem entity @p slot.hotbar.8 wool 1 0
/scoreboard players set @e[type=Item] Item 1 {Item:{id:wool,Count:1,Damage:8}}
/kill @e[type=Item,score_Item_min=1]
The first command adds the item to a specific spot on the hotbar just like you're command but without the curse.
The second assigns any wool blocks with damage value 8 to the scoreboard and the third command kills all items assigned to the scoreboard.
deleting items from unwanted inventory slots
If you want to delete the item from another slot in the hotbar use this inside first command inside a active repeating commandblock.
/testfor @a {Inventory:[{Slot:0b,id:"minecraft:wool",Damage:8}]}
then add a comparator to that commandblock running into a normal command block executing:
/replaceitem entity @p slot.hotbar.1 air
This you will have to setup for each slot in the inventory. Note that the slot number in the testfor is 1 less than the slot in the replaceitem (and note the b after it)